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Realization of the hour

Being called cute profoundly irritates me.

I suspect this is because cute, in my head, is really short for Awwww....aren't you so cute, little girl? Which makes me want to stomp the head of whoever called me cute in the first place. Grar.

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chronographia
Jun. 7th, 2007 06:52 am (UTC)
jalenstrix
Jun. 7th, 2007 07:39 am (UTC)
Oh goodness, yes...
swiftfoxe
Jun. 7th, 2007 09:13 am (UTC)
But you Are! You're just Adowable! Wike a widdle kitten! I could just cuddle you aww day long! =P

I know what you mean. It is diminutive. You're a sexy bitch, no worries.
jalenstrix
Jun. 8th, 2007 05:11 pm (UTC)
[grin] Thanks, baby.

But yeah, I realize a lot of people have no problem with it and it's a pretty well-accepted term of admiration for the opposite sex. But being called cute for me is just...grar. I am a sexy bitch, not cute. Dammit. ;)
regyt
Jun. 7th, 2007 11:20 am (UTC)
Indeed. And I get it a lot, on account of being short.
larksdream
Jun. 7th, 2007 11:57 am (UTC)
Same here. GRRRRRR I WILL CLAW YOUR EYES OUT. In a cute manner, of course.
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nameless_abyss
Jun. 7th, 2007 01:30 pm (UTC)
All you need to do is expand your definition of cute, and it becomes a compliment. I, for one, would never recoil at being called cute. I, also for one, would never get called cute, but that is beside the point.

It's really not such a bad thing at all. To me, you are cute and adorable and wonderful and beautiful and all sorts of other good words. Embrace the love.
jalenstrix
Jun. 8th, 2007 05:22 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I do realize it's a widely accepted term of admiration (especially for the opposite sex). And I'm also less offended when any of my friends call me that - this mostly has to do with knowing they don't view me condescendingly.

But even still....it sets off a little "gaaaaaah" button in my head. My head is strange like that sometimes.

But I love the nameless_abyss-love!
emprint
Jun. 7th, 2007 02:15 pm (UTC)
I thought "elegant" was a good word for you. Of course, I was trying to get in your pants.
emprint
Jun. 7th, 2007 02:17 pm (UTC)
Oh, and, personally, I like being called cute. It suggests to me that people see vulnerability and humor and not just skin.
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jalenstrix
Jun. 8th, 2007 05:26 pm (UTC)
[grin] Quite understood. And I think it does depend on who calls me cute very much. I'm waaay less peeved when my friends call me cute, because I know they love and aren't just condescending to me.
fallen_tigress
Jun. 7th, 2007 02:50 pm (UTC)
Cute... argh!
I get called cute on a regular basis... and I despise it too... I'm like... 'I'm cute'?? I don't want to be called cute... because I see it exactly the same way that you do. EXACTLY that way... and I just cringed when I read the way you put it, because it could have come from my mouth identically.

Mwah!
Leighanne
jalenstrix
Jun. 8th, 2007 05:27 pm (UTC)
Re: Cute... argh!
Yeah - I think it really does have different associations for different people. And because we have certain associations for cute, it pisses us right the hell off. ;)

Mwah!
culfinriel
Jun. 7th, 2007 04:31 pm (UTC)
Cute definitely implies do not take the female seriously but feel free to pet her on the head and treat her like she is five. Personally, I resent this. Yet some people seem not to. Go figure.
jalenstrix
Jun. 8th, 2007 05:28 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I think it must have different associations for different people. But for me, as you noted, it has this condescending tone to it. So hence the grar.
ameer_tavakoli
Jun. 7th, 2007 09:14 pm (UTC)
I was going to say something sarcastic ...
but other people beat me to the punch.

So instead I will ::gasp:: be serious.

I don't think of cute as being a diminutive at all.

Rather, I think the phrase has become a "safe" way for people to throw out a descriptor for something they generally find to be beautiful or attractive or what have you, and that word is used to ping their friends for a response.

For example:

Me: "Those shoes? I think they're cute!"

My friends: "Ugh, you like those?"

Me: "Uh, well NO! Of course not. 'I' would never wear them, I just thought they were neat."

My friends: "Whatever."

----

Similar conversations can be done about people.

For myself, there is a low of power and respect built into the words "beautiful" and "attractive" and I really reserve those words for things that are extraordinary. Whether I should or not is a seperate matter.

My two cents.

lbchewie
Jun. 8th, 2007 05:15 am (UTC)
Re: I was going to say something sarcastic ...
I agree with them. There's a poverty of language to describe somebody who's attractive without coming on too strongly.

Let's say I was at a bar, and a friend of mine introduces me to a woman and somehow I'm forced to comment upon her appearance. I find her attractive. Let's also assume I'm not a total creep.

How would I respond?

My options seem to be:

  • Hot - Implies I want to jump into bed with her at the first chance.
  • Sexy - The same.
  • Attractive - Too formal, and connotes sexual intent.
  • Beautiful - Awww... he's crushing!
  • Gorgeous - Just a slightly less offensive way of saying "Hot," and implies I may be fantasing about her at some later time.
  • Radiant - Comes off as glib ... or it's one of those buzzwords that might have my companions thinking I'm gay.
  • Elegant - Only works for those women who truly are elegant. Not all attractive women are elegant.
  • ...


Then I arrive at: cute

I mean it to be safe, neutral, and yet warm and friendly. Maybe I'm interested in her, maybe I'm not. She'll have to speak with me more to find out.

If I found the most attractive women on earth who was pining for me, I doubt I'd have the gall at the present moment to call her "sexy" to her face. I think it's rude and unrefined.

So, I'm curious to learn about more alternatives.

That being said, I can still understand your rant, Lisa.
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