Realization of the hour

jalenstrix

Jun. 7th, 2007 07:39 am (UTC)

Oh goodness, yes...

swiftfoxe

Jun. 7th, 2007 09:13 am (UTC)

But you Are! You're just Adowable! Wike a widdle kitten! I could just cuddle you aww day long! =P

I know what you mean. It is diminutive. You're a sexy bitch, no worries.

jalenstrix

Jun. 8th, 2007 05:11 pm (UTC)

[grin] Thanks, baby.

But yeah, I realize a lot of people have no problem with it and it's a pretty well-accepted term of admiration for the opposite sex. But being called cute for me is just...grar. I am a sexy bitch, not cute. Dammit. ;)

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larksdream

Jun. 7th, 2007 11:57 am (UTC)

Same here. GRRRRRR I WILL CLAW YOUR EYES OUT. In a cute manner, of course.

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nameless_abyss

Jun. 7th, 2007 01:30 pm (UTC)

All you need to do is expand your definition of cute, and it becomes a compliment. I, for one, would never recoil at being called cute. I, also for one, would never get called cute, but that is beside the point.

It's really not such a bad thing at all. To me, you are cute and adorable and wonderful and beautiful and all sorts of other good words. Embrace the love.

jalenstrix

Jun. 8th, 2007 05:22 pm (UTC)

Yeah, I do realize it's a widely accepted term of admiration (especially for the opposite sex). And I'm also less offended when any of my friends call me that - this mostly has to do with knowing they don't view me condescendingly.

But even still....it sets off a little "gaaaaaah" button in my head. My head is strange like that sometimes.

But I love the

nameless_abyss-love!

emprint

Jun. 7th, 2007 02:15 pm (UTC)

I thought "elegant" was a good word for you. Of course, I was trying to get in your pants.

emprint

Jun. 7th, 2007 02:17 pm (UTC)

Oh, and, personally, I like being called cute. It suggests to me that people see vulnerability and humor and not just skin.

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jalenstrix

Jun. 8th, 2007 05:26 pm (UTC)

[grin] Quite understood. And I think it does depend on who calls me cute very much. I'm waaay less peeved when my friends call me cute, because I know they love and aren't just condescending to me.

fallen_tigress

Jun. 7th, 2007 02:50 pm (UTC)

Cute... argh!

I get called cute on a regular basis... and I despise it too... I'm like... 'I'm cute'?? I don't want to be called cute... because I see it exactly the same way that you do. EXACTLY that way... and I just cringed when I read the way you put it, because it could have come from my mouth identically.

Mwah!
Leighanne

jalenstrix

Jun. 8th, 2007 05:27 pm (UTC)

Re: Cute... argh!

Yeah - I think it really does have different associations for different people. And because we have certain associations for cute, it pisses us right the hell off. ;)

Mwah!

culfinriel

Jun. 7th, 2007 04:31 pm (UTC)

Cute definitely implies do not take the female seriously but feel free to pet her on the head and treat her like she is five. Personally, I resent this. Yet some people seem not to. Go figure.

jalenstrix

Jun. 8th, 2007 05:28 pm (UTC)

Yeah, I think it must have different associations for different people. But for me, as you noted, it has this condescending tone to it. So hence the grar.

ameer_tavakoli

Jun. 7th, 2007 09:14 pm (UTC)

I was going to say something sarcastic ...

but other people beat me to the punch.

So instead I will ::gasp:: be serious.

I don't think of cute as being a diminutive at all.

Rather, I think the phrase has become a "safe" way for people to throw out a descriptor for something they generally find to be beautiful or attractive or what have you, and that word is used to ping their friends for a response.

For example:

Me: "Those shoes? I think they're cute!"

My friends: "Ugh, you like those?"

Me: "Uh, well NO! Of course not. 'I' would never wear them, I just thought they were neat."

My friends: "Whatever."

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Similar conversations can be done about people.

For myself, there is a low of power and respect built into the words "beautiful" and "attractive" and I really reserve those words for things that are extraordinary. Whether I should or not is a seperate matter.

My two cents.

lbchewie

Jun. 8th, 2007 05:15 am (UTC)

Re: I was going to say something sarcastic ...

I agree with them. There's a poverty of language to describe somebody who's attractive without coming on too strongly.

Let's say I was at a bar, and a friend of mine introduces me to a woman and somehow I'm forced to comment upon her appearance. I find her attractive. Let's also assume I'm not a total creep.

How would I respond?

My options seem to be:

Hot - Implies I want to jump into bed with her at the first chance.
Sexy - The same.
Attractive - Too formal, and connotes sexual intent.
Beautiful - Awww... he's crushing!
Gorgeous - Just a slightly less offensive way of saying "Hot," and implies I may be fantasing about her at some later time.
Radiant - Comes off as glib ... or it's one of those buzzwords that might have my companions thinking I'm gay.
Elegant - Only works for those women who truly are elegant. Not all attractive women are elegant.
...

Then I arrive at: cute

I mean it to be safe, neutral, and yet warm and friendly. Maybe I'm interested in her, maybe I'm not. She'll have to speak with me more to find out.

If I found the most attractive women on earth who was pining for me, I doubt I'd have the gall at the present moment to call her "sexy" to her face. I think it's rude and unrefined.

So, I'm curious to learn about more alternatives.

That being said, I can still understand your rant, Lisa.

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