And it's causing problems again. I hate it, too, that it's always so important. But I can see myself in the opposite position - and I'd be feeling upset and rejected, too, so I can't fault for that.
I can force past it, with conscious effort. But the next time, the fear is still there. It doesn't lessen. It's not a "Look, that was okay - you don't have to worry now" thing. It stays, brooding.
But it's been my Downfall (TM) before and it looks like it's going to be again unless I do something about it. Dammit.